Carefully crafted footings, frameworks & formulas to make conversations with difficult performers easier...
presented by
Bill Cropper
3 x 2.5 hr morning Sessions –
July 28, 2 & 9
10.00 am – 12.30 noon AEST each day
3 sequential Sessions online cover same content as 1-day workshop
Dealing with poor performance, as most leaders will tell you, is one of the most commonly avoided and widely feared species of difficult discussions.
It’s not identifying performance issues that’s the obstacle. It’s raising defensiveness – giving difficult feedback to people where their reaction is emotionally volatile, and the conversational course you chart, unpredictable.
Defensiveness is an unnerving side-effect of difficult discussions. Conventional performance conversations centre on ‘constructive criticism’ but criticism is criticism. The person on the other end won’t see it as constructive no matter how much we tell them it is.
Many managers deliver pre-formed judgements on people’s performance deficiencies. We see this as positively assertive; they see it as controlling and coercive. They’re unlikely to open up, and far more likely to get defensive, triggering strong emotions that get in the way of hearing what you have to say, and the hope of getting a positive outcome evaporates.
Dealing with poor performance, as most leaders will tell you, is one of the most commonly avoided and widely feared species of difficult discussions. It’s not identifying performance issues that’s the obstacle. It’s raising defensiveness – giving difficult feedback to people where their reaction is emotionally volatile, and the conversational course you chart, unpredictable.
Defensiveness is an unnerving side-effect of difficult discussions. Conventional performance conversations centre on ‘constructive criticism’ but criticism is criticism. The person on the other end won’t see it as constructive no matter how much we tell them it is.
Many managers deliver pre-formed judgements on people’s performance deficiencies. We see this as positively assertive; they see it as controlling and coercive. They’re unlikely to open up, and far more likely to get defensive, triggering strong emotions that get in the way of hearing what you have to say, and the hope of getting a positive outcome evaporates.
Positive performance conversations work on a simple principle: focus on future positive performance rather than past negatives. Focusing less on what’s wrong and more on what’s expected creates a different emotional climate that enables you to give difficult feedback in constructive ways. It helps to keep their dignity intact and their defensiveness at bay so they hear what you have to say.
Bypassing performance deficiencies and defensive reactions by describing the negative behaviour in positive terms, allows people to respond more positively and focus on the solution-finding and commitment conversation – the goal of giving critical feedback in the first place.
Conversations with low performers will probably never be painless, but a few easy adjustments like this can make them less painful and more profitable to all parties.
Whether you’re dealing with performers who are great, good or troubling, the principles and tools in Positive Performance Conversations can help you plan and prepare so you feel more confident to engage in talks that can be more meaningful and enriching. This 1-day practice-based program provides a step-by-step approach and carefully-curated conversational formulas to:
Whether you’re dealing with performers who are great, good or troubling, the principles and tools in Positive Performance Conversations can help you plan and prepare so you feel more confident to engage in talks that can be more meaningful and enriching. This 1-day practice-based program provides a step-by-step approach and carefully-curated conversational formulas to:
Many of us are in the habit of describing performance gaps in negative ways – what they failed to do or what’s lacking – rather than help them vividly picture what a great performance looks like. Do you know? If you do, then practise putting it positively. It keeps their dignity intact and they learn what you expect of them, as opposed to what’s wrong with them.
This unique master class shows you how to handle a variety of performance conversations with more confidence while making them more productive for everyone. We take you on a step-by-step tour of carefully-crafted footings, frameworks and formulas that will help you take the heat out – for you and them – and turn tough performance talks into constructive coaching conversations.
Tackle tough performance talks in more positive ways
Use 5 footings and frameworks to structure the conversations
Deliver difficult feedback that is more 'sayable' and 'hearable'
Use neutral language without diluting difficult messages
Stay on the positive side of negative performance talks
Turn difficult performance conversations into mutual problem-solving and coaching sessions
Develop your own personal game-plan to deal with difficult performance conversations more positively
Complete a scorecard on Positive Performance Conversations to see how you handle difficult ones
Apply our 5 Footings and Foundations model to structure your performance conversations
100 page self-coaching guide including 25 tools to better manage difficult performance conversations
Take-away a 120 page self-coaching guide with lots of useful tips and 25 tools to better manage difficult performance conversations.
“Practical and empowering, as instead of focussing on punitive outcomes, there were real steps demonstrated that lead towards building performance”
Trish K. – University of Southern Queensland
This practical program is for leaders at any level who want to improve the way they handle performance conversations – especially with difficult or poor performers. It’s particularly relevant for those who get anxious, irritated or defensive confronting poor performers or want to take a more constructive, solutions-focused approach. While the focus is mainly on difficult performers, many principles and tools in Positive Performance Conversations can also be used to coach, support and encourage good performers too.
“Many leaders tell me they avoid and even fear performance conversations. Why do so many of us steer clear or stall when it comes to them? There’s many reasons. For a start, most people don’t want the ‘strain-and-drain’ of having to deal with performance issues – difficult or otherwise. It’s seen as time-wasting for both managers and staff, who feel their time is better spent on ‘more important things’. Second, even with good performers, we may still touch on sensitivities or have to give negative feedback which most of us don’t like. But the number one barrier is fear of triggering defensive reactions that make conversation uncomfortable.
Whether performers are difficult or diligent, the tools I explore in our Positive Performance Conversations clinic and the comprehensive self-coaching guidebook that accompanies it, can help you learn simple and effective verbal formulas to deliver touchy feedback in more positive, encouraging ways that lessen defensiveness and potentially turn performance discussions into coaching conversations.”
Bill is principal consultant and founding director of The Change Forum. He has a wealth of practical experience in conversational coaching, social and emotional intelligence, strategic change, cultural reconstruction, teamworking, group facilitation and leadership learning at all levels from senior executives to team leaders. His work centres on helping workplaces build the capacities they need to create constructive, connective cultures and more vibrant, productive, high-performing teams.
Over the last 10 years, he’s delivered scores of Positive Performance Conversations programs publicly and in-house for a wide range of organisations including health, education, housing, justice, environment, roads, construction and community services. He also runs a version for staff called Making Performance Conversations Work For You.
Positive Performance Conversations springs from Bill’s 15 plus years running Conversational Coaching and Dealing with Difficult Discussions programs while also coaching leaders to handle hard talks and constructively confront challenging performance. And it harks back to research and consulting work he did on positive team performance management for The Australian Productivity Council.
Bill’s been a preferred learning, change and leadership provider for many federal, state and local government agencies and is known for his practical, engaging and interactive style of facilitating. He also creates his own models and frameworks that keynote his programs and produces his own down-to-earth self-coaching guides, toolkits and workbooks to accompany his programs.
If public dates or locations don’t suit, you have 10 or more people interested in attending, or you want to run something more tailored to your team or unit, an on-site clinic may be more economical and a better fit your cultural context or team-working challenges. Call Bill Cropper on 0429-687 513 to discuss and send us an outline of your needs…
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© Bill Cropper – The Change Forum 2023
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